Comments on: Christian Forgiveness Is An Important Struggle

By: LeeAnna

LeeAnna — Fri, 20 Jan 2012 12:55:27 +0000

…Oops… I bumped the “submit comment” button… that right to those whose spouses have had sexual affairs. However, I know God is bigger than ANY mountain we face on earth, or in our marriages. Any marriage can be saved, but I must also disclose that not all will be saved. Both spouses must eventually come to the point where they submit their lives, their mistrust, their anger, their pain… to God, and be willing to work towards reconcilliation (much much prayer, counseling, etc…) My biggest advice for you to do right now, since your husband isn’t on board yet, is 1)pray, pray, pray. Ask God to help you love your husband, help your husband forgive & love you & submit to God, and trust you again; admit to God you are totally dependant on Him to do a miracle in your marriage, & it is nothing you can do apart from Him. 2)recruit as many others to pray for this miracle as you can. Get on online and community church prayer lists too. Get 100s to pray for your situation. You can label it “critical unspoken” if you don’t want to say “Healing for marriage”. I am your 1st recruit! 3)read & do the “Love Dare” book. Some of the dares will nood tweaked if you are separated, but it is a good teaching on loving when your spouse doesn’t love you back. Or see what books your pastor or divorce care leader @ your church or another church recommends for your specific situation. Watch “The Love Dare.” Its good & provides some hope. 4)find a recommended christian counselor who is a woman. Many counselors today take insurance. Mine did, and I didn’t even have a copay! …Other stuff I did: I was depressed. My doctor put me on a low dose of an antidepressant, & it helped so much. Also, I spent so much of my little spare time in God’s Word and surfing the internet for ideas & information on how to save a failing marrage. God bless you. No matter what happens, He loves & adores you, and the closer you come to Him the stronger you will become as a woman, mother & hopefully as your husband’s “new” wife.

By: Mark

Mark — Thu, 12 Jan 2012 18:58:23 +0000

Some other thoughts about forgiveness. When Jesus was hanging on the cross after being beaten, slandered, cursed, spat upon, he said, “Father forgive them. They know not what they do.” Can we do no less? Yes it may be difficult to forgive, and it goes against the nature of the flesh. But we can ask Him to help us to forgive. When we forgive it lifts a burden from us and sets us free. If we revisit the offense in our minds, then again we must say. “Lord I choose to forgive. Help me to have a forgiving spirit.”
Also we must learn to forgive ourselves. If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive our sins. The enemy is the accuser who always brings them up again after Jesus has already forgiven us.
I believe that when I accepted Jesus as my Savior, He forgave me of my past, current, and future sins. He paid the price for all sins in full. If we follow Christ we must strive not to sin and live holy lives. But as long as we are in this flesh, we will fall short. We must continually listen for the voice of the Good Shepherd. We have the faith that if we start wandering off the narrow way, then He will call us and pull us back onto the right path. We have a God who loves us more than we can fathom.

By: manda

manda — Tue, 10 Jan 2012 17:59:15 +0000

My question is, i’m going through a divorce right now and it’s my fault truely is. I cheated on my husband more than once i’m not really sure why? maybe because he was never home always working and i never got any attention. But after leaving him this last time it has been almost 6 months since we’ve been seperated i really want to work things out but he doesn’t. We have a 2 yr old child together and i don’t want him to go through this my parents were divorced and never got along when i was 2 so i kno what he is going to go through. Do you think there is anything i can do to make this work? thx u for reading

By: E.Smith

E.Smith — Sun, 01 Jan 2012 21:09:10 +0000

1 Timothy 1:7 for God gave us a spirit no of fear but of power and Love and Self control.

I believe this always and I a believe that we are called to be warriors for Christ. We are to fight evil from where it stands, sits or walks. We forgive those that accept and embrace our request of forgiveness, which is Christ and that member. That is why God says Vengence is mine (his) and his alone.

Get a serious lawyer that will fight for you and pray about it. Lets say you when you case in court and the lawyer says we are willing to settle for 1 million (and your lawyers fees are 20% to 30% of the settlement). You can take your bosses money or you can stand in front of your boss in the court hearing and say, I just want him to pay my lawyer’s fee and my annual salary that I lost. I forgive him of all other debt and pray that God’s mercy be upon you as it has and is with me. To me that says volumes to him and others present. Plus you must trust God through the court period. You must walk in confidence and courage “NOT IN FEAR.” God did not give you a spirit of fear or backing down from Giants…David did not back down, nor did Noah when he built the ark and people laughed and joked and called him names he pressed on. The bottom line is pray about it, ask God to guide your heart, start the paper work, pray for a lawyer that will fight for your cause, and just before you receive Victory tell your lawyer what your plans are….do not give into worldly thoughts of greed and selfishness and take all the money to teach your boss a lesson, if you allow God to uses you to show Power, Love and Self-Control as it states in 1 Timothy and know that God has a greater plan for you and your old boss as well (Jeremiah 29:11) and you use the victory to GLORIFY God. You will see the blessings of Christ in your life as your old boss will see them in his, he may not right away he may not the next year but that is not up to you it is up to God, because he may do it again to someone else and end up in jail, lose his family, job, home and all of his money, or he may experience a life threatening illness and call you one day to say thank you for showing me Godly Love, I am sick and dieing but I ask you to forgive me for what I have done to you….how would that move your heart and convict you even deeper to stop by the hospital and pray for him and accept his forgiveness and you deeply forgive him how, then look around at his family standing there moved by the love and they too come to know Christ, Oh how powerful, powerful, powerful a God we serve. DO NOT WALK IN FEAR BE THE CHRISTIAN GOD HAS CALLED US ALL TO BE, FIGHT EVIL! FIGHT IN THE SPIRIT and NOT IN THE FLESH. Pray and ask God to guide you every step of the way and he will beleive in his word and stop asking others. Your actions may cause others who were victims like you to stand up and follow you, it may not but you do not know until you step out and trust God and do it for his Glory and not your own, don’t try to fool God, remember he can not be mocked, he knows your heart at all times so pray, pray, pray for the spirit to be the guide in all decisions through your trials and tribulations and keep your faith!!! You will be under attack but pray and have others pray for you as well. Trust in God through all things that come no matter what! I know this trust me…………go forward and serve him, serve the people that need you to stand up and show Godly POWER………..not fear.

By: J.Edwards

J.Edwards — Mon, 10 Oct 2011 23:02:41 +0000

Assuming the facts are correctly stated, then the woman has committed a great sin and called it forgiveness. The article states:

“In her case, she had filed a sexual harassment complaint against her boss and was summarily fired after the complaint was investigated. Her boss said her firing had nothing to do with the complaint, although he gave her no reason for her dismissal other than he could no longer trust her.

“My friend ultimately hired an attorney and intended to file a lawsuit. However, she decided to drop the suit rather than endure the stress that would be associated with a long drawn-out case that would include interrogatories, depositions, numerous court appearances, attempts to discredit her, and yes, repeated instances where she would have to face her former boss. “I decided it would be best to drop it and move on with my life,” she told me.”

However, what of the other people this now emboldened predator preys upon. The woman may be “moving on with her life.” Unfortunately at the same time because she found it burdensome, the predator is also moving on with his life.

Freedom is not free. Our justice system, and the relative peace we enjoy because of it requires people to take action so that evil does not triumph. Before someone says “Judge not lest you be judged.” By making a complaint you are not judging, you are however rendering to Caesar that which is Caesar’s. Please remember there will be another victim, please have some concern for the predator’s next target. These serial predators, whether they are rapist or or bullies or thieves depend on people placing their own welfare ahead of that of every other member of society. This is arrogant. This is wrong.

If she is a believer then part of her problem is, or at least should be, guilt. Her failure to do her part will allow the predator to strike again. While the predator may be blind to the evil he is doing–she is not blind to it. She will recognize what she has done when he strikes again.