“Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.” (Galatians 6:2)
The ink was hardly dry on last week’s column when a friend of mine approached me just before a service at a church I was visiting last Sunday. As I watched the orchestra ready itself for worship, he came up to me and asked me for my continued prayers for him and his family. I was mildly startled by his plea because when I looked into his eyes, I noticed a deep sense of hopelessness that I had not seen before.
I’ve watched this good, Christian man suffer from a back injury for several years. He has not been able to work a great deal, has endured several operations, and now has been told that there is very little that can be done to help him.
As we talked, I couldn’t help but notice how he seemed to be on the brink of tears. You see, his pain medication was beginning to change him and he did not like the change that he was seeing. I knew that he was deeply worried about how continued use of his medicine would affect his relationship with his wife and his family.
As the choir began to stream into the sanctuary, I continued to listen to his story. He finally told his doctors that he could no longer take the pain medication in spite of the fact that his pain is unbearable. For the first time I understood the fear that often accompanies the realization that the answers to our problems can only come from God.
There couldn’t have been a better opportunity for me to have shown Christian love for this friend than by stopping right there and praying for him. I didn’t because the service was beginning and prayer at that moment seemed a little awkward, for me, not for him.
I know what Mark Twain meant when he said, “Most people are bothered by those passages in Scripture that they cannot understand. The Scripture which troubles me most is the Scripture I do understand.” The fact is this man could not have reached out much farther. How can God accomplish His purpose for me and for my friend if I am not willing to be an instrument through which He can work? I am haunted by the reality that the prayer to which God may have responded is the one I didn’t say for my friend that morning.
My pastor has repeatedly reminded our church that we are all ministers. He’s right. So many times we expect our pastors to handle the hopeless situations. But that’s not what God expects, which is why Paul says, “Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.” (Colossians 3:12)
I was talking with a pastoral counselor the other day who reminded me that my own relationship with God is also affected by my refusal to obey what His Word commands. In other words, every time I fail to pray for a friend, extend a helping hand, or simply offer an encouraging word, I miss an opportunity to know a little more about how God works, not just in the life of others, but in my life. While other opportunities will come, the lessons from missed opportunities will never be learned.
I agree with whomever it was that said, “I used to think that God’s gifts were on shelves one above the other, and that the taller we grew in Christian character the easier we could reach them. I now find that God’s gifts are on shelves one beneath the other. It is not a question of growing taller but of stooping lower; that we have to go down, always down, to get His best gifts.”
Are we growing in the right direction?
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